We are always “on”.
We live in a time where we panic if we lose sight of our cell phone for more than 30 minutes.
Facebook notifications, Instagram notifications and now Periscope notifications are popping up everywhere.
In a call with my Mastermind group yesterday, we talked about what success feels like. I was so pleased with how one of the members responded. She took the time to drop all of her business matters and attend to her families urgent request when they needed her the most. She knew what was most important. She put first things first.
Are you there?
Are you fully present when you’re around your family?
And by fully present, I mean no cell phone, no texting, no Facebook scrolling. You are right there, present, fully enjoying the moment.
Why is that so hard to do?
What’s Holding You Back?
There are 4 things holding us back from experiencing deeper relationships and taking care of those who take care of us.
#1 Avoidance. You’ve seen it before. You’re at a party and someone walks in who you really don’t want to engage with. What do you do? Make a B-line to the restroom or grab your phone and start scrolling or texting? Or you’re at the dinner table and you’re exhausted. You just don’t feel like talking. But you sure don’t mind playing games on your tablet.
#2 The Drive for More. The smell of success is sweet. However, when we sacrifice the well being of our family and health on the altar of “more”, we are headed downhill. Keep first things first and value your family…while you still have them.
#3 Wrong Priorities. In today’s age of comparison and misplaced expectations, it’s easy to get caught up in being what others want you to be. Wrong. Focus on what God told you to do. Everything else will fall into place after that.
That reminds me of the popular verse, Proverbs 3:6: “In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.”
#4 Distractions. We are more distracted today than ever before. Why, just reading this post, you probably had your attention divert elsewhere for a split second. Multi-tasking doesn’t work. I know, we feel like we have to catch up on the latest “everything” so that we don’t miss out, but listen – for the sake of your sanity, set some healthy boundaries for yourself and focus.
And if you have a team…
If you’re blessed to have a team of people working with you, they can’t be their best selves if you don’t give them proper time to rest, recharge and refuel.
I value my assistant Lara so much because not only does she help take the load off my shoulders, but she helps manage the “happiness level” of my clients and that’s of primary importance to me.
I recently sent her an email encouraging her to do three things:
- No email checking on the weekends. Use that time to recharge and rest with your family.
- Get 7-8 hours of sleep per night.
- Spend quality time with your children and take care of your health.
By investing in her well-being, not only is the happiness of my clients increased and my stress level reduced, but she is able to truly enjoy her job because she is cared for and loved.
What are you doing to take care of those who take care of you? Post your comment below. I read every one.