How To Survive a Tough Transition

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I wasn’t going to write this.

But there’s no need to sugar coat it and ignore the pink elephant in the room (ok, and if you’re just meeting me for the first time, among other things, I’m a city girl living in the country.)

It was a tough transition. No joke.

Imagine leaving everything. And I mean everything – home, family, the place you grew up, your roots, your rock, work, best friends, people you love, even your puppy dog (yep. sigh)…everything.

“The Lord had said to Abram, “Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you.” Genesis 12:1

How in the world do you deal with a tough transition like that? 

Is it just me, or was Abraham having an inner conflict too?

“Uhhh, God…what did you just say? Could you please repeat that???” (Gulp…yes I heard Him…but you know how it is…we need some extra time to process what He just told us to do.)

Long story short, 8 years ago, I picked up and moved from my home state of California and moved to the deep south.

What??? (I can hear you now…most people are trying to get to the sunshine state and here I am leaving it?)

Have you ever left all the comforts of everything you knew and loved to obey the call of God on your life?

Look, I want you to know that I get it. I understand. You’re not alone in feeling like you’re alone. But here’s the kicker. Even though you may have felt like you left everything, there’s someone who never left you, and His name is Jesus.

I want to give you 5 quick strategies that have helped me deal with my transition. I hope they help you deal with yours too.

Strategy #1

Take Responsibility for your own choices

Stop blaming others for the trouble you may be going through. While they may have contributed to it, you can’t control their response or force someone to do what you want. Forgive quickly and go on with your life. You can’t change other people, you can only change yourself.

Be encouraged by this verse: “But the more they afflicted them, the more they multiplied and grew.” Exodus 12:1

Strategy #2

Change your thinking

So you’ve got to stop thinking negative. The more you dwell on past hurts and pains, the bigger they’ll become. Other people are not responsible for your happiness. You are in control of that. Remember, whatever you water is what grows.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” Philippians 4:8

Strategy #3

Get some new friends

You don’t need people who gossip and belittle you behind your back. Instead, you want those who actually pray for you and link up arms with you to help you succeed. Listen, if you hang around people who drag you down, that’s pretty much where you’ll find yourself, down. So change the company you keep and surround yourself with success. Remember, the best predictor of what someone will do is what they have done already. Rocket science, huh?

Strategy #4

Instead of regretting what you lost, celebrate what you’ve stepped into.

Romans 8:28 says, ” And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” So even though you may not be able to see or feel it right now, there really is purpose in your pain and a reason for your struggle.

God will not put more on you than you can bear.

“You have been put to no test but such as is common to man: and God is true, who will not let any test come on you which you are not able to undergo; but he will make with the test a way out of it, so that you may be able to go through it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13

Strategy #5

Blossom where you’re planted

Start investing in programs, products, services and books that will elevate your thinking and help you to create something that you absolutely love and were born to do. Blossom by serving and helping others. Find creative ways to be yourself, do work you love, and glorify God in the process.

Question: Are you going through a transition right now? How are you coping with it?

P.S. (Warning…this is a long P.S)

Have you ever been there before? Like, for real? Leaving the familiar for the unfamiliar? The known for the unknown? Maybe you’re wanting to start your own business, write a book, or launch your own products & programs and recurring revenue streams.

It took some time to adjust, but with God’s help and a supportive, loving family, I’ve had more good days than bad. In fact, my days have been amazing. Not perfect, but amazing. Why? Because I wake up every morning with a heart full of gratitude for the gift of His grace and mercy along my journey. Genuine gratitude truly is the ticket to happiness.

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Stay tuned for next week’s post. I’ll talk about the real reason why I chose this transition. Just for the record, everybody won’t like it. But hey, if the reason you’re doing things is because you’re afraid and just to please people all the time anyway, that’s not living. That’s dying.

And if you read this far down (and didn’t skip ahead! ahem…), let me just say: You’re super awesome!

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  • Julie Carr

    I loved this post Lady J! Like you, and I am sure, many, many others I have gone through multiple transitions. During one in particular, I made the painful decision to release two very close friendships that had lasted over 20 years. I knew God had more for me and if I stayed in this circle of influence, I would not be able to reach the level I believed to be my greatest potential. Those are painful decision, but looking back I am so glad I did.

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Thank you, Julie! Transition is often the time of our greatest growth if we choose to see it that way. Thanks for reading and commenting.