Have you ever been lied on?
Not a very comfortable feeling, is it?
I read a quote by Winston Churchill that said:
“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to put its pants on.”
Here’s my story:
8 years ago, I left everything I knew.
A job I loved, a family who was my rock, and friends who were golden.
I left a little city called Los Angeles, California to move to Montgomery, Alabama.
-Pause (I’ll let you soak that in for a minute)-
I was getting married to my amazing husband.
The transition had it’s fair share of challenges.
Not only was I getting married and moving out of the state, but I became a Pastor’s Wife to an incredible congregation (I love you New Life!) and was blessed with 6 bonus children. I essentially moved into what many would call a “glass house” as a First Lady.
Many people would ask me how the transition was. Some would ask because they genuinely cared, others would ask because they were just nosey and wanted something to talk about.
Everyone wasn’t able to handle the truth.
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Truth is, it’s hard changing your life.
And in the midst of changing your life, not everyone is going to be for you. Not everyone is going to celebrate you. Some may smile in your face, say they have your back, and then disappoint you.
I was blessed with great support.
You know why?
Because I chose to show myself friendly and genuinely care about others. The Bible says that “he who has a friend must show himself friendly.” You don’t need everyone on your team, you just need the right people on your team.
About that Lie…
The lie wasn’t something someone else said.
It was what I told myself.
When you are in the midst of change and adjustment, if you’re not careful, you’ll listen to the voice of resistance that whispers, and then shouts: You can’t do this. You don’t really have what it takes!
That is a lie.
You have to believe you can succeed, and you will.
But you have to believe first. Your life becomes whatever meaning you give it.
Once you change your thinking, you can change your life.
You see, I was in business & a budding entrepreneur when I moved.
Being a First Lady was a great calling and one that I fully embraced. I wanted to enhance the honor of being a First Lady in an even bigger way by serving others in my business.
It wasn’t just about putting on a pretty hat and sitting on the front row every Sunday for me. I had to work. I wanted to work. To work was to be fully alive glorifying God with the gifts He blessed me with.
To do something that was meaningful and purposeful was the foundation I was raised on.
I had to find a way to pour into others and speak life into them. I had to find a way to help move people to action to become the change they were seeking. I wanted to serve people to truly take the Word of God they heard preached every Sunday and take action on their God-sized goals.
In that first year of moving to Alabama, the enemy tried so hard to make me feel like the same God who was with me in Los Angeles wasn’t with me in Montgomery.
That is another lie.
The Bible says, “Behold, I am with you always.” (Matthew 28:20)
Yes, there were days when I felt alone and times when I didn’t know what to do next.
Have you ever seen a Lion, the King of the Jungle, caged? Upon first getting captured, he roars angrily and desperately fights to break free. But before long, if he stops fighting, he’ll resign to his fate of being locked in. But the lion who keeps fighting will win.
You don’t have to stay locked in. Summon the great resolve that is inside of you and decide today that you will win.
I flipped those lies on their head and it only helped propel me forward to find my purpose and now I love what I get to do everyday. I’m so grateful for everything that has led up to this point.
I’m all about helping you live out your greatest potential and purpose. I want to empower you to use your gifts and talents to change the world.
Let me encourage you:
God has never left you.
You may be in the middle of a transition yourself.
Don’t let the lies others tell, or even the lie you may tell yourself stop you from pursuing your God-given purpose.
God will never leave you. You are not alone. Something good is going to come out of your transition if you can just hang on.
- Focus on the good. We can all find meaning, even in our pain.
- Shift your focus. Learn to master the challenges even in your suffering.
- Take control. Choose consciously and wisely. Find the deepest meaning in everything.
- And if you need to talk, I’m here. Schedule a powerful coaching conversation that will change your life. Email [email protected]
Question: How are you going to use the negative things that happened in your life and turn them around for good?